Why Is Satisfying Sex So Difficult to Achieve and Maintain? Webinar Series: Learning to be Present
Recorded on November 2, 2023
How mentally and relationally present are we during the activity of sex? Are we even aware of our partner’s presence or do we go off to another place in our heads? Some people go to a private fantasy, others are mentally writing their Costco list or planning their day. Learning to be present brings us into the reality of the other’s personhood and their value. Learning to be present is a sexual game changer.
- Fantasy: Affairs emanate from the fallacious illusion that life is better elsewhere. People don’t envision lasting and irreparable damage.
- Effects of abuse: sexual, physical, emotional, spiritual
- Verbal and visual attunement in which sexual union is a warm expression of friendship as opposed to closed eyes and non-observant.
- Learning to be thoughtful about the other person’s sexual experience. Am I living as a sexual user / taker where the other person is an object? Porn, masturbation is very self-focused, and fantasy based. It’s not reality, it’s pretend.
- What’s permissible?