Description
How We Love Private Couples Study
The How We Love Private Couples Study combines a recording of our six-hour How We Love Workshop with the Private Couples Study Guide to help couples move beyond recurring conflict and build lasting emotional connection.
In the seminar, we get to the root of the relational patterns that keep couples stuck in frustrating cycles and provide a clear pathway toward healing and secure connection. One of the most common comments we hear from attendees is, “Why has no one ever explained this before?” because the material often brings clarity to struggles they’ve experienced for years, but never known why.
The accompanying Private Couples Study Guide helps couples put these concepts into practice. After each of the nine video segments, you’ll work through guided exercises and discussion questions designed to deepen understanding, increase self-awareness, and build empathy for one another. These structured conversations help each partner feel seen, heard, and understood while learning healthier ways to connect.
Many couples have shared that the Private Couples Study was more impactful than months of traditional couples therapy because it not only helps them understand why they get stuck, but also gives them practical tools to create lasting change together.
What’s Included?
Note: You Must Create an Account at Checkout to Store and View your Streaming Video
- How We Love Workshop Streaming Video (Videos will be available in your account after purchase)
- Two PDF Downloads (Available after purchase)
- How We Love Syllabus (to use as Milan and Kay teach through the video).
- Private Couples Study Guide (with instructions and discussion questions for each session).
We respectfully ask you not to duplicate these copyrighted materials. Thank you.
What’s Covered?
- Learn how your early life experiences create a love style — blueprint that shapes your behavior, beliefs and expectations in all your relationships, especially marriage.
- Discover how your love style is at the root of your marriage problems.
- Identify and change the core conflict pattern in your marriage that blocks intimacy and satisfying emotional connection.
- Learn about the Comfort Circle and how to use it to facilitate deep conversations.
- Watch Milan and Kay work with a couple as they each listen to each other beginning with the question, “What bugs you most about me?” See how extended listening takes this couple to an entirely new level of understanding, compassion, and connection.
- Watch Milan & Kay demonstrate a holding time for couples to model. This alone can take your relationship to a whole new level!
The 9 sessions are:
- Session 1: Three Skills for Great Relationships
- Session 2: Early Development: It’s Effects on Current Relationships
- Session 3: Love Styles: The Avoider and the Pleaser
- Session 4: Love Styles: The Vacillator & Review of Avoider, Pleaser, Vacillator
- Session 5: Love Style of the Controller and Victim and Core Patterns
- Session 6: Understanding Triggers and Growth Goals for Each Love Style
- Session 7: The Comfort Circle Part 1: Anna Listens to Mark
- Session 8: The Comfort Circle Part 2: Mark Listens to Anna
- Session 9: Holding Time and Questions
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