Here are some helpful, free resources to aid with your personal development or small group programs.
Guided Comfort Circle FROM ONE OF OUR WORKSHOPS
Watch Kay lead a couple through a Comfort Circle to discover the root of their core complaint about each other.
It’s a throwback—but still so powerful!
Comfort Circle Guide for the Listener
Use this guide to practice Comfort Circles with your spouse or friends. You’ll increase self-awareness through allowing your feelings to surface and see how to understand them without judging them as right or wrong. It can also double as a personal journaling worksheet to deepen your awareness.
Soul Words
This is our emotions list. Use this as a prompt along with the Comfort Circle to help you accurately identify what you’re feeling. You’ll be surprised what you realize your feeling when look at a list (especially if you’re an Avoider)!Resolution: Repairing After a Rupture
This resource will help guide you into your goal to restore connection after an argument or conflict.
Addressing and Solving a Problem: Guide for the Listener.
Listener: Ask ALL the questions below writing down the answers. Stay in the listener role until you ask every question then switch roles.
Speaker: use list of soul words. (Don’t skip this step!) After you both listen, use the Resolution Page to consider possible resolutions and decisions.
Triggers Worksheet: The Hidden Forces that Fuel Our Reactivity
When a person’s behavior, words, moods or reactions in the present touch a childhood wound in us and remind us of a painful experience in our past we will have an exaggerated response.
Awareness Worksheet: Journaling
Goal: To increase self-awareness by allowing feelings in order to observe, describe and understand them without judging the feelings as right or wrong, good or bad. Use this worksheet for journaling to deepen awareness.
Learning to Leave Your Parents
This PDF is a guide to you as an adult son or daughter or as the parent of adult sons or daughters as you seek to understand more fully God’s design for the family as it progresses from generation to generation.
10 Romantic Dates & Ideas
We put together 10 Romantic Dates & Ideas as a response to the high pressure of Valentine’s Day. Don’t get us wrong, we love the concept of couples doing something special for each other, but it can be year around and it can be simple. Showing real attention, care and understanding for each other goes a lot further than overpriced flowers and chocolates. We hope you enjoy some of our ideas and that it can help inspire you to other creative ideas.
Traits of a Secure Connector
As we work toward a secure attachment we will be able to rate ourselves higher (more strongly agree) in the following areas. We suggest rating yourself now, read How We Love, and then complete the workbook in the back of How We Love.
How to Choose a Good Counselor
We are often asked for referrals from all over the United States for therapists who are familiar with our approach. What training should you look for and what questions can you ask to help you find a therapist who will help you grow?
How to Understand Your Quiz Results
This PDF will help you to understand your quiz results and will answer the following questions:
- What does the number of my score mean?
- What if I had scores close together in two categories?
- What if I had high scores in three or more categories?
- None of my scores were above 4. What does this mean?
- Where do I start?
Understanding Your Attachment Style Workbook
This workbook is a companion to Understanding Your Attachment Style. It’s designed to help you apply what you read, deepen your insight, and track your growth as you move through the three steps: Develop Insight, Become More Aware, and Show Up to Practice.