Do you know your love style?

Everyone has a Love Style—also known as an attachment style—shaped in early childhood and revealed most clearly in close relationships, especially marriage and parenting.

The goal of understanding your Love Style isn’t to stay stuck in it, but to grow beyond it and earn a secure attachment (becoming what we call a Secure Connector). This quiz is your first step toward healing past wounds, breaking unhealthy patterns, and building strong, lasting relationships.

After completing the quiz, scroll down and we’ll walk you through the next steps in your growth journey. If you’re married or in a romantic relationship, you’ll also discover how to identify your core conflict pattern—and how to move beyond it toward healing, deeper connection, and mutual understanding.

Please note: The quiz must be done in one sitting and takes approximately 20-30 minutes to complete as it analyzes 25 different relationship traits.

We’ve worked with a research statistician and put the quiz through thousands of trials to ensure the questions accurately measure the intended variables. If it feels hard to respond with only a simple “yes” or “no” try and go with your gut reaction, or consider how you behave when you’re upset, stressed, or in conflict.

AFTER YOU'VE TAKEN THE QUIZ

Take STEP 2 of the How We Love Journey

If you’re in a relationship—learn the Core Pattern created as your love style + your partner’s love style combine. Once you know it, you can learn to overcome it!

Move to STEP 3 once you’ve discovered your Core pattern—Or if you’re not in a relationship. 

Apply our healing tools—the Growth Goals and The Comfort Circle—to create stronger connections in your key relationships and a more secure attachment.