How We Love Sex… or Don’t 6 Hour Workshop (Crossline Church 2023)


How We Love Sex….or Don’t is a six hour workshop on sexuality, divided into 8 session. The video was filmed during a live workshop in 2023 at Crossline Church in Laguna Hills, California. Titles to each section are listed below and we have updated our content from the original video filmed in 2011. The content also includes an extensive syllabus which couples can use for discussion.


How WE Love Sex….or Don’t 6 Hour Workshop

In this six-hour workshop we discuss the five Love Styles and the common sexual problems each faces. As a couple learns how to cultivate a deep emotional bond and a spiritual connection they bring those parts of their relationship into every sexual encounter. A lot of us bare our bodies in a sexual encounter without ever having exposed much of our soul. We attempt to enjoy physical intimacy while struggling with emotional intimacy. In many cases, we don’t even know how to uncover our soul and be vulnerable with our clothes on. Of all of God’s creation, sex has been the most distorted, spoiled and desecrated from God’s original design and intent. In fact we are so saturated with the world’s view it’s difficult to keep God’s perspective in mind.

We offer this workshop in two formats: streaming videos and audio download. We discuss the five love styles and the common sexual problems each faces. If a couple cannot open up emotionally and spiritually the sexual relationship will reflect that difficulty. The streaming video will be stored in your account so you can view it anytime. The 40 page How We Love Sex…or Don’t Syllabus will be available as a PDF download upon purchase.

NOTE: If you purchase the streaming product, you must create an account at check out to view your streaming videos.

We respectfully ask you not to duplicate these copyrighted materials. Thank You.

What’s Included?

  • New PDF download of the syllabus with discussion questions for each session
  • Latest research on the female sexual response cycle and new insight regarding the common female problem of “low desire”
  • New and informative Ted Talk with a new look at pornography
  • Tips for to negotiating a mutually satisfying sex life
  • 34 questions for couples to foster discussion about sex
  • Breakdown of fast food sex vs banquet sex
  • Tips to be fully present during sex

We are passionate about the contents of this seminar because we watch the “lights go on” as people understand for the first time how to bring healing to their relationships. We consistently hear feedback from attendees that this workshop gave new insights and helped open up discussion that was beneficial to a couple’s sex life.

This package includes 8 sections

Session 1: Sex the Great Exposer: If sex is so great why is it so hard? (20 minutes)
Session 2: How the Love Styles Affect Sexual Intimacy: Avoider and the Pleaser (43 minutes)
Session 3: How the love Styles Affect Sexual Intimacy: Part A: The Vacillator (30 minutes) andPart B: The Controller and Victim (30 minutes)
Session 4: Part A: Family of Origin Issues (30 minutes) andPart B: Overcoming Cultural Influences on Our Sexuality (37 minutes)
Session 5: Male and Female Sexual Responses and Desire Differences (30 minutes)
Session 6: Moving Towards Better Sex Life (26 minutes)
Session 7: Common Challenges
Session 8: Part A: Holding time (17 minutes) and Part B: Questions from the Audience (36 minutes

Additional information


Streaming, Audio (MP3)