Are You Drifting Toward Crisis or Inching Toward Growth?

Last Friday marked the summer solstice—the longest day of the year. From now until mid-December, we’ll lose a minute or two of daylight each day. It’s subtle at first, barely noticeable… until one day, it’s dark before dinner.

That’s exactly how relational drift works.

We drift one moment at a time—when we speak harshly to our child or spouse, when we rescue someone who doesn’t need it, or when we avoid repairing after conflict. We rationalize: “It’s fine to move on without saying anything just this one time. I’ll do it differently next time.” Then one time turns into many times, and suddenly, we’re in crisis.

But here’s the good news: Growth works the same way!

It also happens one moment at a time—but only by intention.

You don’t have to wait until things are stressful to grow. You can start now by deciding you will practice:

Reflective and empathetic listening skills with customers and colleagues at work, if it’s harder to do with friends and family
Listening first in a conversation and doing so without defensiveness when you disagree with what’s being said
Not fixing others’ problems or managing their emotions
Speaking without blame or criticism
Holding healthy boundaries and tolerating displeasure from others when doing so
Creating space to calm down so you don’t react

Growth happens in the moment you choose to do what you normally wouldn’t—or resist doing what you normally would.

It’s not random. It’s the result of consistent, purposeful choices.

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We’ve already done the hard work of putting together growth goals for each of the love styles and mapped out marital core patterns.

Once you can see the problems, they’re that much more possible to overcome!

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