How Do You Handle Mistakes?

Last week, after a big Costco run, I pushed my overflowing cart down the wrong parking lot aisle. I spotted my car one row over and—trying to avoid walking all the way around—I thought, “I bet if I’m really carefu,l I can get my cart between these two parked cars.”

I was wrong.

The wide bottom of the cart gently bumped one of the cars, and I hadn’t seen that the owner was sitting inside. She wasn’t thrilled and quickly jumped out to tell me off. Thankfully, there was no damage. I apologized right away, carried all my groceries from my cart to my car, and quickly left feeling embarrassed.

Driving home, I could feel myself slipping into my old shame cycle—playing out in my head several different scenarios for how that could have turned out, and asking myself, “Why did I think that was a good idea?”

But here’s the difference between the old me and the growing me: after years of working on my growth goals, I’ve learned to catch shame in the moment and not let it define me. Instead of getting defensive or shutting down like I used to, I reminded myself: “My mistake doesn’t equal my worth.” That’s not something that happened overnight. It’s taken time, intentional work, and commitment, just like any growth journey.

What Are Growth Goals?

Growth Goals are the daily practices that help you move toward secure attachment and essential if you want to grow.

In therapy, I usually dedicate a full session walking clients through their personalized growth goals based on their attachment style. But since we’re here to support you beyond the therapy room, we’ve made these teachings available as a recorded audio and companion PDF resource. This way, you can start your growth journey with expert guidance—at a fraction of the cost of a private session.

Attachment research tells us we can earn a secure attachment style—but “earned” means intention and effort. So don’t delay! Learn your growth goals and follow this roadmap we’ve outlined to get you to secure attachment. Your future relationships—and the people closest to you—will thank you.

New Singles Bundle (Save 50%!)

If you’re single, you’re not alone—We’re here with you, and our newest bundle is for you!

Packed full of resources at 50% savings, we’ve hand-picked offerings from our resources designed for individual growth to help you on your journey to secure attachment. Because when you grow into secure attachment, you’ll learn how to pick healthier connections.

The Singles Bundle also makes for a great graduation gift! They’ve got their education to prepare them for their career, but do they have the education to prepare them for a relationship? The Singles Bundle is packed with the relational education every new graduate needs!

Here is what the Singles Bundle contains:

HWL for Singles 3-hour Workshop ($79.99)
Learning to Engage in Conversations audio download ($12.99)
What’s Your Love Style and Why Does It Matter webinar streaming ($25.00)
Temperament and the Love Styles webinar streaming ($25.00)
The Safety Pyramid: Finding Safe People webinar streaming ($25.00)
Understanding Triggers and How They Harm Relationships webinar streaming ($25.00)
Understanding Shame and How it Affects Our Relationships webinar streaming ($25.00)
Becoming an Adult Around Your Family webinar streaming ($25.00)
Personal Choices for More Fulfilling Relationships webinar streaming ($25.00)
Learning to Reset the World’s Programming webinar streaming ($25.00)