How We Love is an important tool in my work with couples. I encourage couples to read the book as we start our work together to better their understanding of themselves and their partner. This also helps create common language for us to use in sessions together. I will have couples take the online quiz then we further identify their conflict cycle. After doing so we work towards understanding by utilizing the comfort circle and souls words list in session. Couples walk away with tangible growth goals to focus on to create real change in their marriage.