Amy and I had a conflict last week, which took longer than usual to resolve. We both got stuck, feeling we were more wronged and wanting the other to apologize first. We eventually resolved, but it took some humility.
Have you ever said or heard someone say, “I’m getting triggered!”? Most of us have — and usually what we mean is, “I’m getting angry and about to blow—so be warned!”
Milan and Kay transformed their relationship after they learned about childhood attachment styles and realized the ways they learned to connect with their parents back then were still influencing their behaviors, reactions, and expectations in adulthood.
Last Friday night, my 20-year-old daughter and I went to a popular major chain restaurant during the dinner rush. Told there was a long wait ahead, we scoped out the open-seating options in their bar area and saw a table waiting to pay their check.
Why is it so hard to walk away, even when we know a relationship isn’t right? Often it’s because we fall in love with the feeling of being in love—not necessarily another person.
This is a common question in couples therapy, and one you may be wondering about too. But let’s be honest—when someone asks me, “How often should we be having sex?”, there’s more under that question than wanting to know just numbers.