How We Love Insights

Here’s a simple but challenging question: How do you take feedback? Most of us would agree with this statement: I’m not right all the time. But we tend to act and live as if we are.

The New Year always seems to take me by surprise. There’s such a huge buildup to Christmas—and then suddenly, the New Year hits, and it’s all over. Everything resets, and we’re back at the beginning again.

Last week, I wrote about learning how to be an adult when we go home for the holidays. This week, I want to face what it looks like to let go of the parenting role. We all know the word adulthood, but have you heard the term selfhood?

Why can it be so hard to feel like an adult when we go home for the holidays? You might be confident and competent in your career, respected by friends, or looked at as a leader in your church—but when you walk back into your family’s home, you can suddenly feel twelve again.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you hate disappointing others? If I’m honest, my number is still higher than I’d like to admit. Recently, I found myself locked out of a work system—one I hadn’t logged into for a long time.

Let’s talk about history. No, not world history, but people’s history—your history! History matters in so many areas of our lives: When you go to a new doctor, what’s the first thing they ask for? Your medical history.