How We Love Insights

We’re continuing to confront some difficult topics. This week, I want to answer a question that so many people struggle with alone: How does a relationship heal after betrayal?

With Valentine’s Day just behind us—and all the cultural pressure that often comes with it—let’s tackle a difficult but important topic: sexual abuse and its impact on sex and intimacy.

Wouldn’t it be amazing if we had an “undo” button so we could quickly go back and fix mistakes—or a time machine so we could avoid traumatic events or change outcomes we wish turned out differently.

Ever wondered if there’s a tipping point in a relationship—the moment that determines whether it will deepen or slowly fade? Romantic relationship moves through predictable stages, whether we’re aware of them or not.

I (Amy) have an older car. When I’m driving on a bumpy freeway, something on the tailgate rattles. Since most of the time it’s just me in the car I turn the radio up, so I don’t notice it.

I (Amy) was reminded recently just how essential it is to be aware of our wounds before the moment happens. The other day, my 20-year-old son and I both had the day off. That doesn’t happen often in this season of life, so I invited him to go shopping with me. To my delight, he said yes.