Repair by Learning the Comfort Circle

The Comfort Circle is a communication tool that builds listening skills and slows a conversation down so a couple can learn to control reactivity and stay engaged in difficult conversations. Reactivity (fight, freeze, flee) derails successful conversations. It’s different from a normal conversation because the listener stays in the listener role for an extended period of time. The Comfort Circle generates meaningful conversations creating bonding and leading to secure connection. We think it’s so important that we have created this video which explains the steps around the Comfort Circle. You can also watch us work with a couple as we coach them through the Comfort Circle.