“I like people, but I’m not very comfortable when they get emotional. I like to keep it simple… it’s so much easier when people just take care of themselves.”
Coming from often affection-less homes that value independence and self-reliance, the Avoider grows up learning to just take care of themselves. The catch? They restrict their feelings and needs so they can deal with the anxiety of having little to no comfort and nurturing from their parents.
Ask yourself the following: If these statements resonate with you, you might be an Avoider. Take the quiz to find out.
- I am usually “fine,” and when something bad happens I try to get over it quickly.
- In my family growing up, we rarely discussed personal concerns.
- I’m usually happiest when others are happy and don’t want a lot from me.
- I don’t really think about my own feelings and needs very often.
- I don’t really miss my spouse or family if I’m away from them.
- I need my space.