The Love Style Quiz

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This test is meant to help you discover your primary love style (also called an “attachment style”) as you interact with others. Your love style is activated within any relationship but it goes into full bloom with those to whom you are most closely connected. Your love style is not a temperament or personality trait. It is a defensive adaptation to a lack of sufficient emotional connection and nurturing when you were growing up; you may also have experienced relationships that were intrusive or abusive as a child. While these styles were adaptive as kids they prevent close fulfilling relationships as an adult. An accurate assessment requires honesty and careful self-reflection.

Your ultimate goal is to become a secure connector. Let’s get started on the journey…