The Love Style Quiz

Faces representing each of the 5 love styles
Each person’s childhood experiences form the roots of who they are; continuing to inform the way that person responds to others or expresses love, even far into adulthood. The result of all these experiences are actually very predictable because people tend to fall into one of five special categories: called “Love Styles”.

This quiz will score you in each of the five Love Style categories, with a high score in any category signaling a trouble area. While most people will have a single, dominant Love Style, it is possible for you to have multiple problem areas. Don’t worry, at the end of the quiz we’ll explain your results and provide you with some next steps to begin your emotional recovery.

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This test is meant to help you discover your primary love style (also called an “attachment style”) as you interact with others. Your love style is activated within any relationship but it goes into full bloom with those to whom you are most closely connected. Your love style is not a temperament or personality trait. It is a defensive adaptation to a lack of sufficient emotional connection and nurturing when you were growing up; you may also have experienced relationships that were intrusive or abusive as a child. While these styles were adaptive as kids they prevent close fulfilling relationships as an adult. An accurate assessment requires honesty and careful self-reflection.

Your ultimate goal is to become a secure connector. Let’s get started on the journey…