I utilize How We Love principles on a daily basis with my couples. I have found it to be eye opening for my clients when they begin to understand how their early lessons on love are impacting their relationships, and keeping them from having the love and security they so desire. I help couples identify their individual Love Styles and Core Pattern, and initially have them choose growth goals to work on. I then work with them in learning how to use tools like the Comfort Circle to begin to form a healthy, secure attachment in their marriage relationship. I have seen how this new understanding benefits the couples I work with and is often very different from other couples counseling they have done. The couples often naturally begin using HWL tools in the way they parent and how they relate to others in their life and extended family.