Core Patterns: Vacillator + Controller (MP3 Download)

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Your core pattern is the enemy, not your spouse!  This one hour download provides an in-depth look at Vacillator–Controller Core Pattern. It includes a downloadable PDF, which includes a circular diagram  of this Core Pattern explanations  and all applicable interventions to exit this reactive, destructive dance.

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Your core pattern is the enemy, not your mate? This one hour download provides an in-depth look at Vacillator–Controller Attachment Core Pattern. It includes a downloadable PDF, which includes a circular diagram  of this Core Pattern explanations  and all applicable interventions to exit this destructive dance.

Both the Vacillator and the Controller mistake intensity for intimacy. Often, that was their experience growing up. Fighting or intense arguing is a connection of sorts, in that two people are engaged, but what is lacking is the ability to regulate emotions and reach a resolution where both people feel heard, understood and valued. In many homes there is intense fighting without resolution. Everyone just moves on even though no one was truly heard nor was the problem resolved.

It may appear these two like to fight when in fact it’s just the only way they have experienced connection. Both like to be right, both move quickly to anger and both are stubborn and determined. The making up after a fight may be just as intense and sexual encounters are often used to “make peace”. Both spouses likely have come from homes where arguing and fighting were a part of normal everyday life, so neither sees the destructiveness of the Core Pattern, especially for the kids. This is one of the most volatile combinations and the kids suffer as a result.

The Vacillators’ tension builds up when they feel hurt, abandoned or misunderstood. The Controllers’ tension builds up whenever their control is threatened. It’s easy to see how a spark can quickly start a fire.

If you are interested in the complete series, this lecture is also included as part of the Core Patterns – Complete Series set.

This CD is also available as an audio download!

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This product includes the following downloads...

  • ACPT-Vacillator-Controller-ff.pdf
  • ACPT Vacillator-Controller.mp3