Each of the 9 individual CD contains a 45-60 minute teaching by Milan and Kay on each Core Pattern. The complete series set includes not only the CD’s but also 9 PDF files containing a circular diagram of each core pattern, explanations of the interactions and all applicable interventions to exit the core patterns. This set includes a free audio How To Know If You Are Growing, outlining stages of growth. Therapists will find these to be a great handout for clients. You can purchase the entire set for $319.92 or each Core Pattern individually for $39.99.
When two of these problematic love styles collide in adult romantic relationship couples are unwittingly re-creating a primary attachment relationship similar to their family of origin. Eventually, when the facades begin to disappear and conflict ensues, a core pattern of reactivity begins to form which becomes a repetitive fight or way of interacting that repeats over and over. These core patterns are unexplored, automatic, predictable and as so far as the couple goes, involuntary. Interventions are targeted at helping each person see their part of the destructive dance and using a comfort circle to create a new successful pattern of relating.
We prefer to see couples together (not individually) as these reactive patterns are best observed when couples are interacting and regulation is best learned within the primary attachment relationship.
A free PDF file is also included for each core pattern (13-22 pages depending on the combination) which includes:
- A diagram of your Core Pattern.
- Bullet point description of each love style.
- Initial attraction.
- Explanation of each person’s experience when the core pattern is activated in the relationship.
- Individual growth steps for each style.
- Interventions and suggestions to exit the core pattern.
Only interested in a particular core pattern? Find your core pattern below and click on the format you prefer: CD or MP3. The PDF is included in the price for either option. You may also purchase the PDF file separately without the Audio by clicking on PDF.
- Charting Your GrowthCD / MP3 / PDF
- Vacillator–ControllerCD / MP3 / PDF
- Vacillator–PleaserCD / MP3 / PDF
- Vacillator–VacillatorCD / MP3 / PDF
- Vacillator–AvoiderCD / MP3 / PDF
- Avoider–PleaserCD / MP3 / PDF
- Controller–Victim CD / MP3 / PDF
- Avoider-Avoider & Pleaser-PleaserCD / MP3 / PDF
- Controller-AvoiderCD / MP3 / PDF