Understanding Temperaments: Thinkers and Feelers.
Now we are going to look at two different ways of making decisions. Thinkers feel and feelers think. We just lean one way or the other when it comes to making decisions. Some of us decide with the head, some with the heart. Look at the lists below and decide which is more like you.
THINKER [T]: (About 60% of population)
- Values logic above sentiment. Decides with the head.
- Usually impersonal, being more interested in things than in human relationships and sees things as an onlooker from outside the situation.
- If forced to choose between truthfulness and tactfulness, will usually be truthful. Concerned with truth, justice and the American Way.
- Stronger in executive ability than in social arts.
- Are likely to question the conclusion of others on principle, believing them probably wrong.
- Pride themselves on truth and objectivity.
- More business like and task oriented.
- Are usually able to organize facts and ideas into logical sequence that states the subject, makes necessary points, comes to a conclusion and stops there without repetition.
- Contributes to society by intellectual criticism of its habits, customs and beliefs by exploring the wrongs, solutions to problems with support of science and research.
- More focused on what is fair.
- Think about feelings.
- Enjoy proving a point.
FEELER [F]: (About 40% of population)
- Values sentiment above logic. Decides with the heart.
- Usually personal, being more interested in people than in things and sees things as a participant from within a situation.
- If forced to choose between tactfulness and truthfulness, they will usually be tactful. Concerned with relationships and harmony.
- Stronger in social arts than in executive ability.
- Are likely to agree with others, thinking as other people think, believing them probably right.
- May minimize truth to maintain harmony. Naturally friendly. More appreciative
- Usually find it hard to express what they have to say in an orderly sequence and may therefore ramble and repeat themselves with more detail than a thinker wants or thinks necessary.
- Contributes to society by their loyal support of good works and movements, for the community good.
- More empathetic and focused on what others feel.
- Feels feelings.
- Enjoy promoting harmony.
How do you decide? More with the head or heart? One is not good and the other bad. It’s just a different way of assessing what decision should be made. If we are a very strong thinker or feeler, it is a good idea to try and achieve some balance by learning to consider the other side. For example in parenting, and extreme thinker can be to rigid at times, while a feeler can be too soft. Kids need a little of each. They need boundaries and limits. They also need sympathy and compassion. If you and your spouse are opposites here, you need to learn to value one another’s perspective and look for middle ground.
Sometimes feelers are not honest because it may hurt someone’s feelings. They need to learn to speak the truth in love. At times, thinkers can be harsh in delivering the “truth”. This verse in Ehp 4: 25, Speak the truth in love is for both thinkers and feelers.
Milan and Kay
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