The Secure Connector 18

Special Announcement

Saturday, November 3, 2012

6:00-10:00 PM

Arroyo Trabuco Golf Club

26772 Avery Parkway, Mission Viejo, CA 92692

This special event will include a silent auction, hors d’oeuvres, dinner and testimonies from people who are experiencing a 180 relational turn in their lives.  At the end of the evening you will be given the opportunity to invest in our ministry, and to take part in the transformation and relational equipping of individuals, couples, pastors, and kingdom leaders.

We would love to have you join us!

Seating is limited and is by RSVP only.  Tickets are available to purchase for $125 each.

Please go to our website  www.relationship180.com to RSVP by October 15, 2012

Evening dress attire

Trait: I am comfortable with reality and don’t minimize problems.

Thirty years ago, a happy day was no conflict, others were happy, no problems came my way and no one was mad at me.   Ultimately, that mind set was destructive to my life, relationships and ministry.   To not be willing to pick up an uncomfortable piece of news, or to bring up a conflict from last week and ask Kay how she was doing, or to ask someone with a dark countenance what was going on inside was not my usual way of doing things.   Rather, I would prefer to cover my ears, shut my eyes and say “La la la la la la la la la la la… I can’t hear you.”

As a full blown, unaware and out of control pleaser I was very uncomfortable with reality and minimized problems every day.   “Let sleeping dogs lie” was my motto.  I was a good news junkie and had a severe case of bad-news-a-phobia.  As a result I was a lousy leader, a weak husband and a push over with no boundaries.

My delusion was that somehow being nice and not making waves was the Christian thing to do.   Upon further review and many relational failures in my life, I came to realize that this persona in no way resembled Christ.

The crucifixion, resurrection and resulting Good News message is a clear model that  God leans into reality and faces problems with maximum clarity and strength.  Even the sacrament of communion, now two thousand years old is a clear reminder of the reality of the bad news of the broken body and shed blood of Christ… which ended up being Good News… His substitutionary death for us so we could be freed from sin.   A celebration of bad/good news.

Certainly then we learn from God that he is comfortable with reality and does not minimize problems.   How about you?

Thanks for listening.

Love you,

Milan