I got this funny story from Linda, a friend of mine in Chicago. We have had some great talks about the love styles and Linda used an experience that happened recently to illustrate a point we think is very important in our journey of growth. I asked her permission to share it because it’s a great opening for […]
Let’s start with some synonyms for the word reactive; hasty, unthinking, immediate, knee jerk, imprudent, rash. Most arguments are reactive interchanges, like a ping pong game….I hit, you hit back, I return the volley and you try a better shot that will get me off balance. Once a discussion gets reactive, it’s down hill from there. Nothing good is […]
This month we are talking about reactivity and how it harms relationships. Reactivity blocks reason!! When you are reactive, you cannot listen. You cannot separate the past from the present. You cannot say things in a loving way. The goal is to respond, not react. Responsiveness is not clouded with reactivity. Let’s look at the common things that make each of the […]
Here are some more ideas to help you control your reactivity. Don’t assume. So often we react without hearing the whole story or getting all the facts. Learn to find out more when something really annoys you. The bible says a fool only listens to one side of the story. Stop and listen. Ask for the others person perspective and feelings. You might […]