This month’s newsletters will be about How We Love as Leaders. In my office, I see many Christian leaders, lay and professional who cover the range of attachment styles. This series is dedicated to helping understand what each attachment style looks like and how they can improve as leaders within the Kingdom of Christ. The thoughts that follow were in response to […]
This month’s newsletters will be about How We Love as Leaders. In my office, I see many Christian leaders, lay and professional who cover the range of attachment styles. This series is dedicated to helping understand what each attachment style looks like and how they can improve as leaders within theKingdom of Christ. It was the first day of the […]
This month’s newsletters will be about How We Love as Leaders. In my office, I see many Christian leaders, lay and professional who cover the range of attachment styles. This series is dedicated to helping understand what each attachment style looks like and how they can improve as leaders within theKingdom of Christ. But what happens when controllers enter the […]
This month’s newsletters will be about How We Love as Leaders. In my office, I see many Christian leaders, lay and professional who cover the range of attachment styles. This series is dedicated to helping understand what each attachment style looks like and how they can improve as leaders within theKingdom of Christ. Candy grew up in a horrible home. The […]
This month’s newsletters will be about How We Love as Leaders. In my office, I see many Christian leaders, lay and professional who cover the range of attachment styles. This series is dedicated to helping understand what each attachment style looks like and how they can improve as leaders within theKingdom of Christ. I just hung up the phone with […]
One day, as a young pleaser pastor, I was looking forward to my vacation because I was completely exhausted. I used up a lot of energy every day worrying about what others thought of me. I was very dependent upon other people’s approval so that I could feel ok about myself. I had a deep fear […]
Here are a few things I see as important growth steps vacillator leaders need to take. Having worked with so many vacillators (leaders and laity) I grown to love and like them… even when they are in the rough. Kay refers to me as the Vacillator Whisperer. I kind of like that. The one thing I don’t […]
So, how do you help a Controller Leader? I’m convinced that many a church split had its beginnings when lay and staff members mustered up the courage and confronted a controller leader. Remember, controller leaders are characterized by the following: Often with powerful and dramatic conversion stories, they can become very strong and dominant leaders. They will […]
How do we help Victim leaders? Let’s review their tendencies: They have been trained to tolerate the intolerable and in the name of God, endure the sufferings of their own doing and those imposed by zealous insensitive leaders. They expect suffering and chaos feels normal. They don’t stick up for themselves or defend themselves well. […]