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Blog Series: Controll

The “Need” to Control Others – Part 3 (of 5)

Posted on April 16, 2009

How and Why Pleasers Control Others We all have a “need” to control others. Everybody does it. Some more than others. Sometimes it’s healthy. Sometimes it’s not. We can do it consciously. Other times, we are unaware that we are controlling others. Recall the first week we began by asking the question “Why do we […]

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The “Need” to Control Others – Part 4 (of 5)

Posted on April 23, 2009

How and Why Vacillators Control Others We all have a “need” to control others. Everybody does it. Some more than others. Sometimes it’s healthy. Sometimes it’s not. We can do it consciously. Other times, we are unaware that we are controlling others. Recall the first week we began by asking the question “Why do we […]

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The “Need” to Control Others – Part 5 (of 5)

Posted on April 30, 2009

How and Why Controllers/Victims Control Others We all have a “need” to control others. Everybody does it. Some more than others. Sometimes it’s healthy. Sometimes it’s not. We can do it consciously. Other times, we are unaware that we are controlling others. Recall the first week we began by asking the question “Why do we […]

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