Let’s look at each love style and where they might struggle with causing rupture and initiating repair:
HOW AVOIDERS DEAL WITH RUPTURE AND REPAIR
Avoiders will struggle with minimizing and brushing over this whole topic.
Often there was so little connection for them growing up they do not have memories of anyone trying to make things better or restoring relationship when things went wrong.
Just get over it.
Avoiders will most often offend by omission.
They won’t notice when they hurt family members with their independent, brisk manner or lack of empathy.
Learning to recognize how they hurt others and apologize is a big growth goal.
Because Avoiders learned to dismiss feelings they often don’t remember others do have feelings and experience hurt.
As avoiders learn to come back to life and develop their own range of emotions they are often more sensitive to others.
Their independent nature can make apologies a struggle but one they must engage in to grow and become like Christ.
Thanks for listening.
Love and Blessings,
Milan & Kay
Next Week: We will look at How Pleasers Deal with Rupture and Repair