Milan & Kay's Blog

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 3

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 3 MaryH asked the question: “How does one move from the lower third into a friend? And what makes a friend different from an acquaintance? I was raised in a family where we were taught to protect and wall in. I know that’s wrong but I don’t know what to […]

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 2

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 2 An Apology: I am so sorry that it’s been a whole month since my last post. As some of you know, I had my mitral valve repaired at UCLA in 2008. I just went through a battery of tests to evaluate heart health which took away from my office […]

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 1

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 1 Happy New Year! If you work at a hospital, they say that a full moon brings out lots of bizarre and unusual activity in the ER, Labor and Delivery and the OR. While the staff may be caught off guard momentarily, all they have to do is look at […]

Integrated Holidays

As some you know, I had an older sister named Millie Kay who was born in 1942 with cerebral palsy accompanied with a moderate mental retardation. She lived in a group home in Covina and enjoyed her life of independence as well as a daily workshop for the developmentally disabled. She was the social queen […]

How We Love Workshop

How We Love Workshop November 14th and 15th 2014 Sponsored by Relationship 180 and Mission Hills Church Join Authors, Milan and Kay Yerkovich, of the book How We Love, for a unique and proven approach to healthy relationships. Where: Mission Hills Church 24162 Alicia Parkway Mission Viejo, CA 92691 When: November 14th & 15th, 2014 […]

Common Problems for Each of the Love Styles in Therapy

Common Problems for Each of the Love Styles in Therapy Each of the love style responds in predictable ways to therapy. Here are some of the issues we see over and over. Therapists need to understand and be able to navigate these common issues. Avoiders: Avoiders don’t see any problem with their past. They often […]

Am I with the right counselor?

Am I with the right counselor? Having gone myself to a number of different therapists, I wish I had had some of the advice back then that I can offer now. Unfortunately, the bell shaped curve applies. There are some very bad therapists mixed in with some fair therapists and then there are some very […]

What is your part in getting the most out of counseling?

What is your part in getting the most out of counseling? Here are some more suggestions about getting the most out of therapy. Therapy is an investment of time and money. There is no such thing as a perfect therapist with a magic wand. Like anything, the more you put into it the more you […]

How to Choose a Good Therapist

How to Choose a Good Therapist We are often asked for referrals from all over the United States for therapists who are familiar with our approach. Do you have someone trained in our area? How can you find a good therapist? Here are some suggestions. First of all, you are the consumer. Ask questions. Shop […]

“Behind Closed Doors”

“Behind Closed Doors” I was deeply saddened this week to hear of the suicide of Robin Williams, by far one of my favorite actors. Who can forget the nontraditional inspiring college professor in Dead Poets Society who made me to want to stand up and shout “O Captain, My Captain!” Or his endearing role as […]