Milan & Kay's Blog

NEW SERIES! – Turning Stress into Opportunities for Emotional Connection

How do you respond when family members, friends or co-workers are stressed? How do others react to you when you are stressed? Learning to manage difficult emotions is crucial to maintaining healthy relationships. In this three hour workshop, Milan and Kay discuss how we can better identify stress responses in ourselves, and others, and recognize […]

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 5

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 5 This week, let’s talk about how someone from a background like MaryH can choose to grow and become more mature and relationally successful. Recall that she describes her family of origin as a place where she was “taught to protect and wall in.” Inherently she knows: “it’s wrong but […]

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 4

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 4 Last week we received a two part question from MaryH, and we addressed the first part in last week’s post. This week, let’s look at the part of the question where she asks “I was raised in a family where we were taught to protect and wall in. I […]

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 3

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 3 MaryH asked the question: “How does one move from the lower third into a friend? And what makes a friend different from an acquaintance? I was raised in a family where we were taught to protect and wall in. I know that’s wrong but I don’t know what to […]

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 2

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 2 An Apology: I am so sorry that it’s been a whole month since my last post. As some of you know, I had my mitral valve repaired at UCLA in 2008. I just went through a battery of tests to evaluate heart health which took away from my office […]

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 1

“The Safety Pyramid.” – Part 1 Happy New Year! If you work at a hospital, they say that a full moon brings out lots of bizarre and unusual activity in the ER, Labor and Delivery and the OR. While the staff may be caught off guard momentarily, all they have to do is look at […]

Integrated Holidays

As some you know, I had an older sister named Millie Kay who was born in 1942 with cerebral palsy accompanied with a moderate mental retardation. She lived in a group home in Covina and enjoyed her life of independence as well as a daily workshop for the developmentally disabled. She was the social queen […]

How We Love Workshop

How We Love Workshop November 14th and 15th 2014 Sponsored by Relationship 180 and Mission Hills Church Join Authors, Milan and Kay Yerkovich, of the book How We Love, for a unique and proven approach to healthy relationships. Where: Mission Hills Church 24162 Alicia Parkway Mission Viejo, CA 92691 When: November 14th & 15th, 2014 […]

Common Problems for Each of the Love Styles in Therapy

Common Problems for Each of the Love Styles in Therapy Each of the love style responds in predictable ways to therapy. Here are some of the issues we see over and over. Therapists need to understand and be able to navigate these common issues. Avoiders: Avoiders don’t see any problem with their past. They often […]

Am I with the right counselor?

Am I with the right counselor? Having gone myself to a number of different therapists, I wish I had had some of the advice back then that I can offer now. Unfortunately, the bell shaped curve applies. There are some very bad therapists mixed in with some fair therapists and then there are some very […]