Why Holding is Difficult for Each Love Style This month we are talking about holding time. People with different love styles approach holding from very different perspectives. Holding Time for Vacillators and Controllers. Both Vacillators and Controllers tend to bury all their tender more vulnerable emotions underneath anger. Why? Because, childhood experiences of unpredictability and […]
Why Holding is Difficult for Each Love Style This month we are talking about holding time. People with different love styles approach holding from very different perspectives. This week we will look at how Avoiders and Pleasers approach and react to holding time. Avoiders: Avoiders are willing to give to a certain extent and holding […]
God’s Amazing Design for Bonding Our fourth grandchild was born two weeks ago. Here are the stats since we know you all are dying to know. Girl: Name, Holland Heather Kay Yerkovich (wow) she will be 10 before she can write it. Weight: 7 pounds 10 oz Birthday: Dec. 28, 2007 at 1:19 pm. Nice […]
I was reading Psalm 133 today. Here is what it says: “My heart is not proud, O Lord. My eyes are not haughty. I do not concern myself with great matters or things too wonderful for me. But, I have stilled and quieted my soul like a weaned child with its mother. Like a weaned […]
Men and Holding Time This month we are talking about holding time. We had some interesting responses from our readers. Readers talked about how holding time is hard for men, especially when they are the receivers. Some men learned from their homes growing up that it is wrong to show emotions or ask for help. […]
The Wisdom of a Three Year Old I wanted to share an email we received that I’m sure will be one of our all time favorites. This is from a mom who wanted to read “How We Love”, but did not have the money to purchase the book. Several days after we corresponded she got a gift […]
Differentiation vs. Annihilation Fourth in a four part series. According to the New Milan Dictionary: Differentiation: “To distinguish oneself as different from another.” Annihilation: “To make something go away as though it didn’t exist.” Last week we talked about how the pleasers, avoiders and vacillators were shaped into their broken attachment or love styles. What […]
Differentiation vs. Annihilation Third in a four part series. According to the New Milan Dictionary: Differentiation: “To distinguish oneself as different from another.” Annihilation: “To make something go away as though it didn’t exist.” So… remember the little kid from last week’s newsletter whose anxious hovering mom couldn’t let him get too far from her […]
Differentiation vs. Annihilation Second in a four part series. According to the New Milan Dictionary: Differentiation: “To distinguish oneself as different from another.” Annihilation: “To make something go away as though it didn’t exist.” Healthy relationships and secure connection is characterized by a freedom felt by both partners be an individual. Secure connection means we […]
Differentiation vs. Annihilation First in a four part series. According to the New Milan Dictionary: Differentiation: “To distinguish oneself as different from another.” Annihilation: “To make something go away as though it didn’t exist.” So… this week, my daughter Amy told her four-year-old son Reece, “We’re going to Nana and Poppy’s for dinner.” He was quiet and […]