Differentiation vs. Annihilation First in a four part series. According to the New Milan Dictionary: Differentiation: “To distinguish oneself as different from another.” Annihilation: “To make something go away as though it didn’t exist.” So… this week, my daughter Amy told her four-year-old son Reece, “We’re going to Nana and Poppy’s for dinner.” He was quiet and […]
“Am I with the Right Counselor?” Having gone myself to eight different therapists, I wish I had had some of the advice back then I can offer now. Unfortunately, there are some very bad therapists mixed in with some fair therapists and then there are some very good counselors. Here are some questions to ask yourself. […]
What is My Part in Getting the Most Out of Counseling? Here are some more suggestion about getting the most out of therapy. Therapy is an investment of time and money. There is no such thing as a perfect therapist with a magic wand. Like anything the more you put into it the more you […]
How to Choose a Good Therapist Question: I’m on the eighth session of marriage counseling and this is the first time my husband and I have gotten this kind of help. We don’t really know what to expect, but it doesn’t seem like we are getting anywhere. We fight in front of her the same way we fight […]
Hello Readers, Here is an emotional question that we received from the contact page on our website: www.howwelove.com. The Question: I was raised a Christian and am still actively involved in my church. Yet, with all these years of exposure….I still wonder: “Is it really possible to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ?” I feel […]
Hello Readers, Here is an interesting question that we hear a lot about people married to avoiders. Although the avoider in this case is a man, it could also be a female in another marriage. We also hear from a lot of men who are married to avoider women and just as frustrated. The Question: […]
COMFORT, NURTURE, and CAREGIVING Fourth in a four part series This information about love styles and their struggle to be adequate caregivers is new material, and recently been added to our How We Love Sexually seminar. Hopefully, it will also be a part of the new book we will be writing soon by the same title. For […]
COMFORT, NURTURE, and CAREGIVING Third in a four part series This information about love styles and their struggle to be adequate caregivers is new material, and has been recently added to our How We Love Sexually seminar. Hopefully, it will also be a part of the new book we will be writing soon by the same title. […]
COMFORT, NURTURE, and CAREGIVING First in a four part series Thought Question: “What are my childhood and adolescent memories of being comforted when I was in emotional pain?” For 20-30% of us, we may have warm memories of being “known” deeply by a parent. Parents who “got us” and had a deep understanding of what made […]
It isn’t often that I will spend three weeks encouraging you to buy a book and read it, but THIS one is worth it. Every once in a while we come across a “MUST READ ” book. For the last three weeks we have talked about the must read: Emotionally Healthy Spiritually by Pete Scazzero. Have you reached […]