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Parenting and the Love Styles – The Victim

THE VICTIM AS A PARENT “Love Styles and Valentines Day” A quick review of the Victim: VICTIM Parent Chaotic, confusing.  Parent source of stress rather than reliever of stress.  May be dangerous:  abuse, neglect, violence, drugs, alcohol. Intimacy  Adrenalin, chaos “normal.”  Calm=anxiety…next storm is coming.  Move towards controller (anger, rage) or victim (passive). Addictions to […]

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Parenting and the Love Styles – The Controller

The Controller as a Parent CONTROLLER/ VICTIM Lets review the traits of the Controller/Victim: Parent Chaotic, confusing.  Parent source of stress rather than reliever of stress.  May be dangerous:  abuse, neglect, violence, drugs, alcohol. Intimacy  Adrenalin, chaos “normal.”  Calm=anxiety…next storm is coming.  Move towards controller (anger, rage) or victim (passive). Addictions to numb pain. Expectations  […]

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