Milan & Kay's Blog

Holding Time – Part 4

Holding Time Part 4 Here are some specific ways to try a holding. Our advice is to make a clear distinction between holding and sex. We all need nurturing, comforting touch that isn’t sexual. Learn to communicate directly as a couple and make it clear when you want to give or receive touch that is […]

The Big Picture – Bible Study

For those of you that don’t know, my dad, Milan Yerkovich, is a gifted Bible Teacher. With all the amazing work my parents are doing with Counseling, Marriage/Parenting Speaking Engagements & Radio, daddy’s Bible classes have been harder to squeeze in. We have been begging dad to teach again. (Steve and I last took this […]

Holding Time – Part 3

Holding Time for Vacillators Since a vacillator longs for connection you might think they would be excited about holding time. Since Vacillators want connection without being vulnerable it can feel like a risky proposition. What if I like it and my spouse never offers again? What if I feel too exposed? Asking directly for what […]

Holding Times – Part 2

Why Holding is Difficult for Avoiders and Pleasers? Avoiders find holding time awkward as they most often grew up with parents who showed minimal to no affection and offered little comfort. If coached, they may be willing to try and hold their spouse, but certainly would not ask for a holding in return. One avoider […]

Holding Times – Part 1

Holding Times WEEK 1 This month we are talking about holding time. This is by far one of the most important skills we ever learned in our marriage. We always demonstrate a holding time in our workshops and the responses range from excitement to downright terror. We have had some interesting responses from our readers […]

Surviving the Holidays – Part 3

Here is point 3 about being an adult around your parents during the holidays. 3. You can set boundaries and say “No,” to your parents even if you get a poor response. Let’s begin by reviewing what boundaries are all about. Henry Cloud and John Townsend have written extensively on the topic of boundaries. The […]

Surviving the Holidays – Part 2

December 10, 2015 We are discussing how adult or child-like we feel and act around our parents. Last week we discussed the roles we played in our families growing up and pondered if we are still playing that role as an adult. Here is our second point about being an adult around our parents. Point […]

Surviving the Holidays

Surviving the Holidays Ho, ho, ho! Merry Christmas! Tis the season to be jolly….right? If only it were that easy. The holiday season can be challenging especially if you have difficult family members whose behavior is predictably problematic. Perhaps those challenging folks are your parents. For the next few weeks let’s focus on dealing with […]

NEW! – How We Love Group Study!

We are pleased to announce our newest resource: How We Love Group Study! The new How We Love group curriculum is an in-depth study for large or small groups. Sessions are designed around DVD footage, discussion, and skill building. We have retained much of the original How We Love DVD workshop but this curriculum includes […]

How Does Our Faith Help with Addictions?

How Does Our Faith Help with Addictions? How do we incorporate God into the healing process? First, we have to know we have a God who understands. One of my favorite verses in the bible is Hebrews 4: 13-16. “And there is no creature hidden from his sight, but all things are open and laid […]