Milan & Kay's Blog

Holding Times – Part 2

Why Holding is Difficult for Avoiders and Pleasers? Avoiders find holding time awkward as they most often grew up with parents who showed minimal to no affection and offered little comfort. If coached, they may be willing to try and hold their spouse, but certainly would not ask for a holding in return. One avoider […]

Holding Times – Part 1

Holding Times WEEK 1 This month we are talking about holding time. This is by far one of the most important skills we ever learned in our marriage. We always demonstrate a holding time in our workshops and the responses range from excitement to downright terror. We have had some interesting responses from our readers […]

Surviving the Holidays – Part 3

Here is point 3 about being an adult around your parents during the holidays. 3. You can set boundaries and say “No,” to your parents even if you get a poor response. Let’s begin by reviewing what boundaries are all about. Henry Cloud and John Townsend have written extensively on the topic of boundaries. The […]

Surviving the Holidays – Part 2

December 10, 2015 We are discussing how adult or child-like we feel and act around our parents. Last week we discussed the roles we played in our families growing up and pondered if we are still playing that role as an adult. Here is our second point about being an adult around our parents. Point […]

Surviving the Holidays

Surviving the Holidays Ho, ho, ho! Merry Christmas! Tis the season to be jolly….right? If only it were that easy. The holiday season can be challenging especially if you have difficult family members whose behavior is predictably problematic. Perhaps those challenging folks are your parents. For the next few weeks let’s focus on dealing with […]

NEW! – How We Love Group Study!

We are pleased to announce our newest resource: How We Love Group Study! The new How We Love group curriculum is an in-depth study for large or small groups. Sessions are designed around DVD footage, discussion, and skill building. We have retained much of the original How We Love DVD workshop but this curriculum includes […]

How Does Our Faith Help with Addictions?

How Does Our Faith Help with Addictions? How do we incorporate God into the healing process? First, we have to know we have a God who understands. One of my favorite verses in the bible is Hebrews 4: 13-16. “And there is no creature hidden from his sight, but all things are open and laid […]

Vulnerability: The Key to Overcoming Addictions

Vulnerability: The Key to Overcoming Addictions I think you can see, we are all very prone to addictions because they give us relief when we don’t know how to get it relationally; from God or others. We may be medicating present pain, but often, there is a childhood root to the pain we currently feel. […]

What Masters You?

What Masters You? There is a great verse in the bible we should all be aware of. It is found in I Corinthians 6:12. “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me but I will not be mastered by anything. Paul is speaking here of […]


ADDICTIONS: DO YOU HAVE ONE? Busy, Busy Busy…the most common addiction…. Addictions of all sorts may be ruining intimacy in your relationship. This month we are going to be talking about the subject of these unhealthy but common behaviors. Now before you read this and say, “This doesn’t apply to me,” consider the most prevalent […]