Emotionally Healthy Spiritually

Every once in a while we come across a “MUST READ ” book.

The next few weeks I am going to encourage you to read Emotionally Healthy Spiritually by Pete Scarzzero.

You will find a link to this book below.

Let me share why I think this book is IMPORTANT for you to read.

In our book, How We Love, and at our workshops, we talk a lot about the importance of knowing yourself on the inside.

We ask you to evaluate how often your parents asked you to reflect on your thoughts and feelings and share what was in your heart and soul.

If you have read our book, you know that your growing up years either gave you lots of practice at revealing your thoughts, feeling and reactions or perhaps you had little opportunity to learn these skills.

Remember, if you don’t know what you FEEL, you won’t know what you NEED.

If you don’t know what you NEED, it is IMPOSSIBLE to find relief in relationship with your spouse.

You will look for relief in non relational ways.

You may even be struggling with an addiction as a result.

ALL addictions are an attempt to get legitimate needs met in ways that end up being destructive.

So, let’s say you read our book, and earnestly spend time doing the workbook.

You will greatly improve your self awareness and reflection skills as well as develop your ability to communicate your feeling, thoughts and needs.

You will be a better listener and be more aware of reaching into the heart and soul of those you love with an ability to “find out more.”

So, how will all this affect your spiritual life?

This is where Pete’s book comes in.

His premise is this:

Maturity as a Christian is linked to emotional healthiness. 

Here is a excerpt from the back cover of his book:

“Peter Scazzero learned the hard way: you can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.

Even though he was pastor of a growing church, he did what most people do:

  • Avoid conflict in the name of Christianity
  • Ignore  anger, sadness and fear
  • Use God to run from God
  • Die to the wrong things.
  • Live without boundaries.

In fact, his wife QUIT the church.

She did not ask for a divorce.  She just quit the church because in her experience, it was bringing her “death, not life.”

Next week I’ll share further why I think this book is a must read.

Here is the link to get this extremely valuable book:


Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleash the Power of Authentic Life in Christ

The Christian faith is supposed to produce deep, positive change. So why doesn’t it seem to work in “real life”?

That question screamed at Pastor Peter Scazzero when his church and marriage hit bottom and every Christian remedy produced nothing but anger and fatigue.

As he began digging under the “good Christian” veneer, he uncovered entire emotional layers of his life that God had not yet touched.

Discovering that his emotional immaturity had fed his spiritual immaturity, Scazzero experienced a spiritual revolution by biblically integrating emotional health and contemplative spirituality.

In Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Scazzero unveils what’s wrong with our conventional means of “spiritual growth” and offers seven biblical, reality-tested, transformational steps that will help you live out your faith with authenticity, awareness, and a hunger for God.




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