Trait: “I can say no and draw boundaries even when it makes someone mad.” Those of us who are insecure pleasers and victims have a really tough time with this one. The thought of disagreeing with someone, opposing them, initiating conflict about difficult topics and saying “NO!” to someone causes us to become […]
The Secure Connector Trait: “I have experienced the connection and closeness that results when a conflict is resolved.” When Kay and I poll our audiences and ask the question, “How many of you as a child witnessed your parents / caretakers successfully navigate an argument and then appear resolved, happy and content?” There is always […]
Thanks to all of you who reached out and gave me a cyber hug last week. It was encouraging to know there are people out there reading this newsletter/blog. I really appreciated your kind words of encouragement. We are looking at the list of secure traits listed on the web site. These are our relational […]
Happy Memorial Day Weekend. We appreciate all who have sacrificed to maintain our freedom. I am feeling lonely…like I am typing into cyber space and know one is responding. Last weeks newsletter was important and I wanted feedback. Did you try it? Did it work? Some times I need to know this is helping and […]
Traits of the Secure Connector (Part 5) Thanks for your prayers. We had a busy, but wonderful week speaking at Saddleback Orphan Summit and then at all five weekend services. We now have a link on our website to the Saddleback Church Weekend Services. Go to howwelove.com and then click on the “About Milan and […]
We hope to see you at one of the Saddleback Church Services this weekend. We will be doing part two of the Love Powered Parenting Series. Stop by our table in the resource area to say Hi! Rate Yourself as Secure Connector: On our website under Secure Connector we have a link to a list […]
Special Announcement – Help needed! We are thrilled to announce that we will be speaking at all of the Saddleback Church Services the weekend of May 5-6! We need some volunteers who would be willing to come and help us at each of the services. If you would like to help, please contact us at admin@howwelove.com […]
On our website under the Secure Connector area of the Love Styles page, we have a link to a list of traits a secure connector would possess (click here). For any attachment injury these are your goals. You can rate yourself to see how proficient you are at the abilities a secure connector possesses. We […]
Rate Yourself as Secure Connector: On our website under Secure Connector we have a link to a list of traits a secure connector would possess. For any attachment injury these are your goals. You can rate yourself to see how proficient you are at the abilities a secure connector possesses. We can all find some […]
Ok…. so we’re supposed to love the Lord with all our heart mind and strength… and then, we’re to love our neighbor as ourselves. If I don’t love well, then I’m told that I am as irritating as a “Noisy gong and a clanging cymbal.” We’re even told that our capacity to love should be […]