Victims and the Lies they Believe If you are a victim, you likely came from the same type of home I described last week as I talked about the Controller; lots of painful experiences in a chaotic unpredictable environment. Even strict rigid, authoritarian homes are chaotic in their own way. Home where one parent is a dictator is…
Controller and the Lies They Believe The more controlling a person is the deeper the childhood wounds driving the controlling behavior. The angrier a controller is the deeper the pools of unresolved, uncomforted pain. Now, read that again. It’s really important. I work in a prison ministry because I have a heart for the controllers and victims which…
If you missed the first few weeks of this series, you will want to go back and catch up. We are looking at the lies embedded in each of the love styles so we can be released of these strong holds and live in the freedom of the truth. This week it is the pleasers, turn; what…
Lies the Vacillator Believes. OK, all you Vacillators; your turn. This is so important, because the lies we are about to discuss are at the core of what makes your life so miserable. To be free from these lies is to be free indeed. There are several major faulty beliefs that are at the core of the vacillator…
What lies do avoiders believe without much awareness of their existence? Let’s focus on the biggest; avoiders deem neediness as weak and pathetic. We avoiders enter adulthood thinking independence and self sufficiency are highly valued traits and emotionally needy people are fragile and pathetic. While self-determination and self-sufficiency are sometimes useful and good, independence needs to be balanced with dependence…
One of the first things God convicted me of when I (Kay) was a brand new Christian (35 years ago) was lying. I remember a specific time my mom asked about a piece of antique china she has given me. She was visiting and did not see it and wondered where it was. I had given it to…