This morning I heard a report from a major news source regarding a couple who went to Disneyland every day during the year 2012. 365 days in a row… no misses… no exceptions. Why? They “just love it!” I guess so, after all it is “the happiest place on earth.” A colleague asked me what […]
Special Announcement Saturday, November 3, 2012 6:00-10:00 PM Arroyo Trabuco Golf Club 26772 Avery Parkway, Mission Viejo, CA 92692 This special event will include a silent auction, hors d’oeuvres, dinner and testimonies from people who are experiencing a 180 relational turn in their lives. At the end of the evening you will be given the […]
Every now and then a book comes along that can profoundly impact the life of readers to an extent that it serves as a tipping point in their life. We are excited to share with you a book that can provide help and hope for people who are out of work and desperately want to […]
Trait: I can control the level of my reactivity so I am able to stay engaged in difficult conversations. Phyllis: “I hate it when he lies to me, he’s always shading the truth, misleading me or outright lying to me. I don’t trust him and I just want to know what else he is hiding. […]
The Secure Connector: #16 in a series. Trait: I know how to use my anger to identify more vulnerable feelings underneath the anger and communicate the more vulnerable feelings. When angry people explode, they only have one answer as to why they got angry… “Because you made me mad!” Wow, now that’s an answer […]
Trait: I can say no and draw boundaries even when it makes someone mad. This one is very hard for Pleasers and Victims. Because of fear, Pleasers and Victims freeze when intimidated or threatened. This can vary from mild to severe and in the most extreme cases, their brains and bodies will lock up […]
Trait: I have experienced the connection and closeness that results when a conflict is resolved. I was at a wedding recently when a mom approached me with her 4 year old in tow. “Jenni, this is Mr. Milan and he is the one who taught daddy and me about rupture and repair.” Jenni’s mouth fell […]
Trait: “I can keep listening and explore another’s feelings, experiences and point of view even when I disagree with them. Before I get started, two quick announcements: If you know anyone who needs a job, I highly recommend Get Noticed And Get Hired by Steve Matter. You can order his book at Amazon.com […]
COMFORT, NURTURE, and CAREGIVING Second in a four part series This information about love styles and their struggle to be adequate caregivers is new material, which has recently been added to our How We Love Sexually seminar. Hopefully, it will also be a part of the new book we will be writing soon by the same title. […]
Trait: “I am comfortable with reality and don’t minimize problems.” As someone comically stated, “Denial (the Nile) isn’t just a river in Egypt, it’s a thing we all do.” Why is that ? Why do we wish to minimize, dismiss, pretend, fantasize, fabricate and lie about what is really happening in our personal world? The […]