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“Self, Other, We.” Part 4: The Pleaser

“Self, Other, We.” Part 4: The Pleaser If the Avoider could be described as self-sufficient, self-reliant and requiring little to no emotional reassurance from others, then The Pleaser would be just the opposite. June was happy her husband was in such a good mood on their first Saturday off in two weeks. She had gotten […]

NEW – Therapist Training DVD Series!

We are SO excited to announce that we have a new product specifically designed for Therapists, Counselors and other lay people who want to learn Milan and Kay’s approach to using Attachment Theory in a counseling setting. Most couples can describe their core pattern; a repetitive, reactive interchange that happens over and over. Many therapists […]

“Self, Other, We.” Part 3: The Avoider… Part 2

“Self, Other, We.” Part 3: The Avoider… Part 2 I thought it prudent to pause in the series to respond to a great question from one of our readers named Olivia. I hope her question and my response will be helpful to many of you in your journey of love. Your post https://howwelove.com/blog/self-other-we-part-2-the-avoider/17654/ resonated with […]

“Self, Other, We.” Part 2: The Avoider

“Self, Other, We.” Part 2: The Avoider “Can’t you see me struggling? I do all the work of going to Costco, the least you could do is help me get these heavy boxes through the door! Are you blind? You just sit there staring at your phone. Don’t just look at me, say something!” Carrie […]

“Self, Other, We.”

“Self, Other, We.” When she was two years old, Lindsey had learned that when she was uncomfortable or distressed, she could turn to Mom and Dad for help. There she would find relief and comfort from attentive and attuned parents. Additionally, their soothing touch and voice tones would settle her agitation and she would feel […]

Upcoming Event!

Hi everyone, We are reaching out to let you know that Milan and Kay will be doing a How We Love workshop in North Carolina this weekend. For all of the event details, please click here. We would love to see you there! Also, we are introducing a new Core Pattern CD to add to […]

No More Perfect Marriages

Hey everyone…we are excited for our friends, Jill and Mark Savage, who just wrote a book No More Perfect Marriages. Mark and Jill’s marriage was in a black hole. A separation, an affair and years of a frustrating core pattern they didn’t understand almost destroyed their marriage. They share our hearts, vision and desire to […]

How We Love Couples’ Retreat with Milan & Kay Yerkovich

How We Love Couples’ Retreat with Milan & Kay Yerkovich Located at the Beautiful Monarch Beach Resort in Dana Point, CA January 20, 21, 22, 2017 This event has limited space and will sell out. $550 per couple Sign up for yourself or consider gifting this retreat to another couple. SIGN UP NOW • Recognize […]

Exciting News!!

We are so excited to announce: Our two day Focus on the Family broadcast titled, “Discovering Your Love Style” is scheduled to re-air Monday, December 19, and Tuesday, December 20, 2016 as part of Focus on the Family’s Best of 2016 programs. On the scheduled airdate, the streaming audio of this broadcast will appear on […]

Psychology or Biblical? – Part 2

Four Lenses of Diagnosing Problems. General medicine does not make Christians too nervous. If you have a troubling symptom you go the Internist or Specialist and hope for an accurate diagnosis and plan of treatment that will bring you back to health. Many times this may involve a prescription. If we are told we have […]