Here are some upcoming events in California that we wanted to let you know about!
October 1. 2016
How We Love Workshop
The Journey Christian Church
4849 Alton Prky.
Irvine, CA 92604
Saturday: 9:00am – 4:00pm
For more information or to register for this event, please click here.
October 7-8, 2016
How We Love Workshop
Moraga Valley Presbyterian Church
10 Moraga Valley Lane
Moraga, CA 94556
For more information or to register for this event, please click here.
We would love to see you at one of these events! Thank you for your continued prayers and support.
Therapist Continuing Education Seminar
Early Registration Pricing Ends July 15, 2016
Please register today!
Kay and I are teaching our six-hour therapist workshop on July 29, 2016 in Mission Viejo, CA and we wanted you to know about it! Here is what it’s all about:
• This course equips Psychologists, MFTs, LCSWs, interns, Pastoral Counselors and others to use attachment theory as a framework for couple’s therapy. Presenting issues that bring couples into therapy can frequently be dissected to reveal how attachment injuries give rise to the presenting symptoms.
• A review of attachment theory and research contrasts five common injurious attachment styles that block intimacy and further an insecure attachment. By teaching participants the interplay of the couples’ attachment styles and the common core pattern of interaction they produce, the therapist is equipped to target root issues rather than focusing on the surface symptoms.
• Specific therapeutic interventions are demonstrated, giving therapists the tools required to achieve treatment goals. This course teaches current peer reviewed research in the field of adult attachment and then goes beyond theory to practical application that creates a structure and map for effective couples’ therapy.
Register at www.relationship180.com on the “events” page. You can also call the offices of Relationship 180 at (949)830-2846 for further information.
Psychologists, therapists and interns will earn 6 C.E. credits that meet the requirements of the American Psychological Association and the California Board of Behavioral Science Examiners.
If you or anyone you know might find this workshop beneficial to their counseling practice or ministry, please pass this information along.
Date: Friday, July 29, 2016
Hours: 9 AM to 4 PM with a lunch break from 12-1
Location: Mission Hills Church, 24162 Alicia Parkway, Mission Viejo, CA 92691
Cost: Boxed Lunch is included
Early Registration for Licensed Practitioners: $179, After July 15, 2016: $229
Early Registration for Interns and Others: $99, After July 15, 2016: $149
Focus on the Family Broadcast
We are excited to announce that Milan and Kay will have a two day Focus on the Family broadcast titled, “Discovering Your Love Style”. It is scheduled to air Thursday, July 7, and Friday, July 8, 2016. Please note, however, the air schedule is subject to change.
On the scheduled airdate, the streaming audio of this broadcast will appear on our broadcast page – www.focusonthefamily.com/radio – along with a brief description. Our Facebook and Twitter pages will also link to the website on the airdate
Also on the broadcast page, look for the Focus “Station Finder” to find stations that carry the program in your area. In addition, a downloadable podcast will be available on iTunes (just search for Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast).
Mission Viejo, CA
Therapist Continuing Education: “Working with Couples Using Attachment Theory” with Milan and Kay Yerkovich: Friday, July 29, 2016
6 CE Credits
This six hour course equips Psychologists, Marriage and Family Therapists, Licensed Clinical Social Workers, Interns and students to utilize Attachment Theory as a framework for couples’ therapy. Presenting issues that bring couples into therapy can frequently be dissected to reveal how attachment injuries give rise to the presenting symptoms.
A review of Attachment Theory and research contrasts 5 common injurious Attachment Styles that block intimacy with Secure Attachment. By teaching participants the interplay of the couples’ Attachment Styles and the common core patterns of interaction that they produce, the therapist is equipped to target root issues rather than focusing on the surface symptoms.
Specific therapeutic interventions are demonstrated, giving therapists the tools required to achieve treatment goals. This course teaches current peer reviewed research in the field of adult attachment and then goes beyond theory to practical application that creates a structure and map for effective couples’ theory.
The California Board of Behavioral Sciences and the American Psychological Association authorizes Relationship 180 to provide training and continuing education units to counseling professionals. This course provides 6 CE Credits.
Hosted by Relationship 180: www.relationship180.com
For more information please click on the Events tab at howwelove.com
We are pleased to announce that you can now get the following versions of the How We Love book on our website:
Audio CD Version: This is the How We Love book narrated onto CDs. For those of you who don’t like to read or don’t have the time and would like to listen to the book while driving in your car, this is for you!
Chinese Version: The book has been translated into Chinese for the Chinese community!
Romanian: We also have the Romanian version of the book available on the website.
For all of these options click into the store and then click on the books tab or you can find them here.
Mercy in Your Marriage Seminar with Milan and Kay Yerkovich
Do you want to improve your family and work relationships? Are you wasting time in needless conﬂict? Do you ﬁnd yourself overreacting to stress at work and in your home? Do you feel like your kids are constantly pushing your buttons?
We all have relationship patterns and habits that interfere with closeness, but you can learn how to identify and change the most common stress responses that harm relationships, creating better relationships with your kids, friends, and coworkers.
Join relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich, authors of How We Love and hosts of the popular radio show “New Life Live,” for this practical seminar that will provide you with tools to help you parent without anger and grow in every relationship in your life.
Saturday, May 21 9:00 AM–Noon
Saddleback Lake Forest Worship Center
saddleback.com/events (SEARCH: Marriage) Questions? Call (949) 609-8555.
We would love to see you there!
Holding Time: Exercise #4
Holder: Hold your spouse until you are both relaxed and your breathing is in sync. Ask your spouse to share a difficult childhood memory. (Avoiders: this may be more about what you missed than a traumatic event). Ask your spouse to share three feelings about this memory. Don’t fix or problem solve. Try and see your spouse as a child experiencing that event or absence of connection.
Think of a child that you are around in your current life that is the same age as you were when you experienced the memory you are sharing. Sometimes we forget how young and vulnerable we were! Try and visualize the memory as you share it.
We hope you have enjoyed this series on Holding Times. The more you practice the more natural and comforting it will become.
Milan and Kay will be in Chatsworth, CA on May 7th for a How We Love Workshop. For more details, please click on the Events tab at howwelove.com
Holding Time: Exercise # 3
Hold your spouse until you are both relaxed and your breathing is in sync. Ask your spouse to describe a current stressor. Ask them to pick three words off the list of Soul Words to describe how that stressor makes them feel. Listen and empathize. Don’t fix or problem solve.
While you are learning to have holding times, pick a stressor that is not about your spouse! It is easier to learn to hold and listen when it’s not a personal complaint.
Holding Time: Exercise #2
Hold your spouse until you are both relaxed and your breathing is in sync. Then make eye contact by asking your spouse to look into your eyes. Share a positive, special memory with your spouse that has meaning for you. Be aware and try to communicate as much with your eyes as you do with your words.
Listen to your spouse as they share a favorite memory and try to take their words into your soul as you make eye contact.
Switch roles and repeat.
Holding Time Part 4
Here are some specific ways to try a holding. Our advice is to make a clear distinction between holding and sex. We all need nurturing, comforting touch that isn’t sexual. Learn to communicate directly as a couple and make it clear when you want to give or receive touch that is non-sexual and when your touch is an invitation to have sex.
Exercise #1: Quiet Relaxing Holding. 20 minutes
Pick a quiet time with as few interruptions as possible. I know this is a challenge if you have small children. Find a comfortable spot and put on some relaxing music. Take 10 minute turns so each spouse is both a giver and receiver. Don’t talk and close your eyes. Be quietly present in the experience and notice what you feel. Try and sync your breathing so you are inhaling and exhaling in the same rhythm with one another. Use pillows and support so you can both relax as much as possible during this experience.